Polish your gold coins

If you have found a treasure which has a mix of old rusted copper coins and some old gold coins. What will you do if you have very limited time to encash them ?
Will you spend time in thinking of the strategy to sell the gold coins by shining them and packaging them or you will spend time in polishing the copper coins also.
Obviously, common sense says first encash the gold coins if the time is limited. Think about the copper coins later if there is enough time and energy left.
But in real life how many people follow this paradigm. If a person's appraisal or a student's report card mentions the strengths(Gold coins) and his/her weaknesses(copper coins) .
Most people ignore the strengths and concentrate on the weaknesses as most of us have been taught and guided to convert our weaknesses into strengths.
It takes enormous effort and time to neutralize a weakness, in most cases the improvement is miniscule. Instead, if we spend the same time and energy on honing our strengths, the rewards will be much greater. Consider Virendra Sehwag if he instead of honing his brilliant hand-eye coordination, had worked on his poor footwork and posture , would he been so successful?
Or Had Anil Kumble instead of concentrating on accuracy-line or length had focused on spinning the ball would he be as successful?
Nature does it almost effortlessly , everybody plays to their strengths , deer run for life, monkey climb trees, tiger attack stealthily.
Any successful person is always known for his/her strengths and not for his/her weaknesses. Same thing applies in the corporate world, a company who sticks to it"s core competency has a better chance for success and is also better known.
So here is a thought for today, identify at least three of your strengths and work on them day in day out and you will be successful . Do not bother about your weaknesses, people might laugh at it today but in the long term your strengths will over shadow them. Sachin Tendulkar and Manmohan Singh have a squeaky voice and a undistinguished personality but their enormous strengths in cricketing and financial skills respectively have over shadowed their weaknesses.

Body Language Postures

Reading the Movements of the Body

Posture can determine if a person has an attitude, if the person is overbearing, and the like. If a person is standing, a person may lean against an obstacle to rest the body, or else stand straight up, thus showing a good posture as well as a purposeful meaning.

If a person has a balanced posture thus it can be interpreted as a sexual attraction. This may mean in some cultures that the person has an adapting personality and that the person is balanced properly.

Men in authoritative workplaces are commanded to sit up, stand up, and lie down with a posture in complete alignment. This is a symbolizing of respect and control.

Women often have a better posture than men, yet at what time illnesses set in it can affect the way a person sites, lie, or stands.

Usually at what time a person is standing or sitting with an aligned posture it means there health may be in good condition. You will also notice the chest area extending outward, while the head area is held up high. The person is often in control.

Other signals are often sent regardless of how the body is positioned. In other words the posture is a stand-behind the hands, eyes, mouth, and other parts of the body. The hands and eyes often make the most powerful body languages recognizable to all. For example, a woman with a fabulous posture may endure unwarranted male attraction. This could put the woman in a position to use the body to signal that the attention is not wanted. The woman could be sitting in an upright position and as a man approaches she may use her hand pointing it sideways and straight up while giving a firm NO. This will let the man know that his company is not needed.

On one hand the posture can send messages of dominance, while at other times the posture could appear natural. For example, a man may use his posture or stance, puffing up his chest and with his eyes staring into the eyes of the other party involved. If the stare lingers longer than a couple of minutes and no words are crossed it may be a sign of trouble.

A person could stand with a leg extended slightly frontward, hands in pocket, and arms bent slightly. This could be a symbol of relaxing, while standing in position.

Men when they are gathering and talking will often employ the last stance, unless the person is authoritative. A person standing with his arms folded across his chest in an upright position is showing a sign of control, while demonstrating that his defenses are prepared for the possible situation as it arises. Thus, he is showing a sign of control, while showing he feels slightly or immensely threatened in his environment.

Postures are seen while sitting, standing or lying down. While the body sits it will most times sit in an upright position with the knees bent, legs crossed and likewise. Men often place their hands over their chest while resting in a chair, which is a sign of comfortableness. Some people even prop their knees and legs up with one leg spread and the other leg firmly gripping the seat area. This too is a comfortable symbol.

If you are going for an interview your best bet is to sit up in the chair properly without slanting or dangling the posture. This will show the interviewer that you are in control of your situation. It will also let him/her know you are not threatened by the meeting.

Ways to Boost Your Self Esteem Quickly

Low self esteem can trip you up just when you need your self esteem is be at its best. These 7 tips will help you feel better about yourself quickly: 1) Think back to when you did something new for the first time. Learning something new is often accompanied by feelings of nervousness, lack of self belief and high stress levels, all of which are necessary parts of the learning process. The next time you feel under-confident, remembering this will remind you that it's perfectly normal - you're just learning! 2) Do something you have been putting off. Like writing or calling a friend, cleaning the house, tidying the garden, fixing the car, organizing the bills, making a tasty and healthy meal - anything that involved you making a decision, then following through! 3) Do something you are good at. Examples? How about swimming, running, dancing, cooking, gardening, climbing, painting, writing… If possible, it should be something that holds your attention and requires enough focus to get you into that state of 'flow' where you forget about everything else. You will feel more competent, accomplished and capable afterwards, great antidotes to low self esteem! And while you're at it, seriously consider doing something like this at least once a week. People who experience 'flow' regularly seem to be happier and healthier. 4) Stop thinking about yourself! I know this sounds strange, but low self esteem is often accompanied by too much focus on the self. Doing something that absorbs you and holds your attention can quickly make you feel better. 5) Get seriously relaxed. If you are feeling low, anxious or lacking in confidence, the first thing to do is to stop thinking and relax properly. Some people do this by exercising, others by involving themselves in something that occupies their mind. However, being able to relax yourself when you want is a fantastic life skill and so practicing self hypnosis, meditation, or a physically-based relaxation technique such as Tai Chi can be incredibly useful. When you are properly relaxed, your brain is less emotional and your memory for good events works better. A great 'rescue remedy'! 6) Remember all the things you have achieved. This can be difficult at first, but after a while, you'll develop a handy mental list of self-esteem boosting memories. And if you're thinking "But I've never achieved anything", I'm not talking about climbing Everest here. Things like passing your driving test (despite being nervous), passing exams (despite doubting that you would), playing team sport, getting fit (even if you let it slip later), saving money for something, trying to help someone (even if it didn't work) and so on. 7) Remember that you could be wrong! If you are feeling bad about yourself, remember that you way you feel affects your thoughts, memory and behavior. So when you feel bad, you will only remember the bad times, and will tend to be pessimistic about yourself. This is where the tip 'Get Seriously Relaxed' comes in! Summary Once you have tried out a few of these, consider making them a permanent part of your life. For most people, good self esteem is not just a happy accident, it's a result of the way they think and the things they do from day to day. Good Luck!